So you have spent this period in office? Don’t you have time to rest? These were interesting questions one of my junior staff asked me over my failure to break off after all other fellow staff broke off for end of year holiday. It is such a time I use to reflect, make annual resolutions, make annual plans and reports. I responded that you have a habit of breaking off, I have a habit of working to maximize my best capacities and plan my year. It is on this basis that I write about our habits. From a scholarly point of view, a habit is a routine of behavior that is repeated regularly and tends to occur subconsciously.
We professionals have made money on making people practice and adopt good habits such as eating healthy foods, parents encouraging their children to develop good table manners, brushing twice a day, sleeping on time, cleaning up the mess, being responsible with money, appreciating or saying sorry. We can also decide to learn or live by the bad habits such as procrastination, overspending, stereotyping, nail-biting and spending too much time watching television or using a computer. We all can adopt these habits. Habit formation is the process by which a behavior, through regular repetition, becomes automatic or habitual.
If you have no habits, then you have not discovered yourself. I must also say that should you develop bad habits, the chains of habits are to strong until they become so heavy to be broken. Today, let me bore you with the fact that you are a result of your habits. These turn into beliefs. For your beliefs become your thoughts, and these shape your actions and your company. Many of us have distanced people who must be useful to our lives because of habits. The biggest challenge in habits is that we cannot easily distinguish between evil and good habits for society celebrate both. Let me illustrate this. When we dress poorly, people will tell us that we are smart. When we fight they say we are strong. When we insult others, people say we are brave. When we don’t pray, people say we are hardworking. On the centrally, when we do well as exemplified by good habits, very few talk about it. This is partly because they appear to be obvious. It is obvious to pray, to dress well, to talk calmly, and to respect and thus it takes good people to recognize and send an appreciation. I must say that the same person can be bored by both good and bad habits. The truth is that everyone is bored, and devotes himself to cultivating habits. My message this morning is for you to develop some good habits. You cannot however develop them if you don’t do personal health habit check. Make an assessment of how you appear? What people tell you about a particular habit? What will deliver you happiness but also tranquility. What will shape your success and failure? I insist on a lot of time being spent, almost every day, to just sit and think about your habits. Let me drive the point home. We get married or fail to get married because of our habits. We act or don’t act because of our habits. We gain or lose friends because of our habits. We go to places largely because of our habits.
How do we tell that the habits we have should be quit? Every time you feel less respected, you pull that attire as you walk, get or receive negative instincts about an action or inaction, receive negative feedback, too much celebrated among others, know that that habit is worth dropping. Unfortunately, not many of us read feelers and reactions of our actions in society. A man who can’t bear to share his habits is a man who needs to quit them. Whenever you do something in hiding, know that that habit is evil and worth leaving. I live a life that creates happiness to me and to others. I assess whether it is good to others then to me before I do it. This has shaped my respect, my care, empathy, support and usefulness to others.
I must say that we all know that we have bad habits. We can decide to change them. Especially if we realize that they are not good to ourselves and to others. If I can illustrate this further, having multiple partners is a bad habit that those who do it know. Not praying all the 5 prayers a day is a bad habit. Allah will ask us why we did not pray. We can however change from bad habits to good habits. When we change, not praying makes you feel bad. Change might not be fast and it isn’t always easy. But with time and effort, almost any habit can be reshaped. Changing bad habits to good ones is not easy as I seem to write it. The chains of habit are too weak to be felt until they are too strong to be broken.
We all must ask ourselves how can we change and adopt good habits. Let us try to do good one step at a time. We become what we repeatedly do. By praying one Morning Prayer, Allah will guide us in praying the 2nd and the 3rd and later 5th prayer. Let us take a careful study of the good habits if we want to learn and start doing well. Adopting good habits is about learning them and trying them. A nail is driven out by another nail; habit is overcome by habit. Start by not focusing on changing other people’s habits but yours. Start by believing that you can change. If you believe you can change – if you make it a habit – the change becomes real. Begin to become passionate about something. It will drive you to some value set of habits. The best kind of happiness is a habit you are passionate about. One popular method to build habits is called the 21/90 rule. The rule is simple enough. Commit to a personal or professional goal for 21 straight days. After three weeks, the pursuit of that goal should have become a habit. Once you’ve established that habit, you continue to do it for another ninety days.
Now that I have bored enough, let me leave you with your habit of not wanting to read.
If you don’t define your habits today, you crumble.
Bbiira Kiwanuka Nassa believes that personal habits are the things that make us and break us so its up to us to either break ourselves or build ourselves
The writer is a junior citizen, and a lead mentor for the Next Generational Leaders